Hi everyone! Heh so I’m back with another post for Love Out Loud Asia (LOLA) again (it’s my second post with them!) and well, the topic I’ve picked is:
Personally, I really enjoy traveling with the
boyfriend quite a bit although we’ve only been on a couple of vacations
together (like Taiwan and BKK), but traveling together has definitely helped us learn more about each
other!
So here’s my take on why:
1. Being in a foreign country means
that you are both stuck to each other; you have to make it work
a.
No escaping problems/quarrels
b.
Learning to compromise
Both of you
have to stick with each other no matter what, so basically, you can’t just
decide to run off after a fight or quarrel like how you can do if you’re back
at home. It helps you to face the issue and to resolve it on the spot instead
of leaving the discontentment buried away. I’ve always believed in resolving
fights within the day because I feel that keeping the anger overnight does no
good at all to a relationship. Travelling would help both partners to learn how
to cope with discontentment together.
2. It allows you to discover traits or
habits that you’ve never really noticed much before
Ever seen how your partner is like
in the mornings when he or she has just woken up after a long day of
sightseeing? Is he or she someone who likes to wake up early to make full use
of the day while on vacation, or someone who prefers to take things slow by
recuperating during the holiday with lots of sleep?
Going on vacation with your
significant other would help you to learn more about the habits that your
partner holds. It helps to assess how similar or different some aspects or
ideas that you may have and being abroad also means living with each other for
that time frame. For instance, I’m extremely messy and last-minute but on the
other hand, my boyfriend is one who must have a plan and itinerary when
traveling. So I basically left the planning to him and at times I would delay
the plans he had because I overslept (oops, and I’m a super grumpy person in
the morning when I don’t have enough sleep hahaha) or I would come up with
other stuff to do at the very last minute. I would say yes we did have some
discontentment while traveling, but it worked out pretty well in the end
because I guess it was a good balance of spontaneity and plans! I would also
take into consideration how he felt about it and go to bed earlier so that I
could wake up earlier in the morning to start our next day! (: So travelling together helps you to discover
each other in ways never before, and it also sort of amplifies certain traits
of your partner that you may not have ever noticed before.
3. New experiences gained together
What better way to have more
memories that you both share together than going on a vacation together? Being
in a new city and country would mean new places to discover, new activities to
take part in and new cuisines to try out together! It’s extra fun especially if
it’s a destination that both of you have never been to before, because it
forges brand new memories of that city and country for the both of you.
4. It helps you to rediscover each
other
Vacations and travelling together
means to have something to look forward to, it’s like an escape away from the
usual grind because truth be told, we do tend to take things for granted when
we are overly comfortable in a relationship. Being away from a routine
lifestyle with each other would help to recreate sparks in a relationship. Traveling
would help you to rediscover things that you love about your partner and to
appreciate him or her all over again. Little things such as him holding your
hand and making sure that you’re not out of his sight, or the way she falls
asleep on your shoulder on a long train ride while holding you tightly, would
let you realize and remember once more why did you fall for each other in the
very beginning (: